3 year drought...Oi Vey.

So I was thinkin the other day while driving my car....not quite sure why I was really thinkin about it. There wasn't really any specific incident that brought it on. But yes this does come up every once in a while.

I haven't been on a DATE in almost 3 years....
There it is.... I said it.
It will be 3 years on Labor Day weekend. Sad that I know exactly when it all went down....shoot I could even tell ya what we did too C:
And 'tops it off'---it was a "It's Complicated" Blind Date..... sooooo not a good way to get the drought up and going.

Not sure where exactly my "MoJO" went. C:

Continuing on the road in the car- I got to thinking of some of the best "words of wisdom?" that I've received regarding my datelessness C:

"It happens when you're not looking."
"He's Out There."
"You'll find the right person for you."
"It will happen when you least expect it."
etc etc...
These ones are great. -BUT- I think " it " will happen whether you're looking for it or not. Some people just have crazy luck--other's not so much. You're not doing anything wrong by going out-meeting people and having a good time while your at it.

"How can you still be Single?"
"What is wrong with the guys these days?"
I figure these statements are meant to make me feel better about myself--that there's nothing wrong with me and what I'm doing. I've found myself saying these to other people as well and that's how I mean them to be taken anyway. -BUT- believe me, if I knew the answers to these questions- I wouldn't still be single.

"Have you tried Online Dating?"
when I get this one- I automatically think of this

hahaha! You bet I have -BUT- will I ever try it again????


negative.


"Some guy is going to come along and ruin your career/life plan."
hahaha! -BUT- still waiting for that one C;


"Wow, I wish I was still single and in your shoes!"
hahaha. -BUT-Really?
Again- I reckon this was said only to make me feel better. C:


This is kind of the first time that I've really ever talked about this cause A: I hate the pity and 2: maybe it's kind of embarassing and depressing. But I think that when this topic does come about- the best kind of advise given is just the good ol fashioned neutral grounds. "This too shall pass" or "There's so much to be grateful for right now/Count your blessings." etc. and ya know- I don't think that I'll ever get tired of hearing

"He's just not that into you."
So just get back up on that horse and keep holding on for dear life.
-BECAUSE- it's supposed to be a bumpy ride.





But in all honesty- I haven't really done anything to fix this. So it's half my own dang fault C: I guess if I'm not really willing to put in some of the work-I can't really expect it back right? I can't just sit around waiting for a love-life to come poke me in the shoulder.

So here I go. I'm gonna throw myself out to the universe. Date's every single weekend....ooh....maybe that's a bit......
NO! Bring it On! Jump into the Planner Fella's!!
I'm gonna Dry up this Drought. I'm forecasting some rain.
I'm gonna be the "Hang-Out Buddy" No More!...well except for...
NO!
I'm gonna..
Nip it in the Bud

Oi Vey. I'm gonna need some help ya'll.

What the??

Online Dating Sites

hahaha! Oh yeah- I've tried....and no...not ever again.

So lately- I've been in need of a some sort of an experiment if you will. Nothing too serious...just wanting to see. Recently - I was hooked up with a Free week from one website- so basically I decided to try it out. Had a lot of mixed feelings.

The Free Week: I maybe only spent a whole 10 minutes filling out a small questionare. And then at the end- I had to compile everything that I am and everything that I'm looking for into a 500 character "essay" And I was set to go. So I start to just kinda dink around the website trying to get a feel for it when all of a sudden I get a chat request. So I open it up and the first thing that is written (my random thoughts in BOLD---I swear I had to really push myself not to type them)
HIM "Hey! You're really cute!" Uhh....?
ME "Thank You." and the conversation continues
HIM "How are you doing today?"
ME "Good thanks. How bout you?" ????????????
HIM "Good. What are you doing right now?"
ME "Just chillin out here on the computer."
HIM "thats cool. You have a really pretty smile." Uhh....?
ME "Thank You."

the conversation continues with more small talk for probably another good 10 minutes. Honestly I'm getting slightly bored with it. Then there's a bit of silence...Oh but wait for it---here's what he said...

HIM "So what do you think of me?" Whoa! Seriously?!?!
ME "Umm...you seem nice. I don't really know that much about you though."
HIM "What do you wanna know about me?"
ME "What kinda stuff do you do for fun....." But he totally interupts me mid sentence and quickly sends
HIM "Are you doing anything tonight? Wanna go out for dinner? I really wanna take you out tonight. U-SO-HOT"

Seriously by this time--I'm starting to get a bit ticked off. Guy can't even stick to a subject. Not to mention he's totally laying it on thick and nothing could possibly bug me more than that. So I say...

ME "I'm not going to go out with you tonight. I don't know you and you don't know me. It wouldn't be appropiate and I absolutely don't feel comfortable doing that."
HIM "Oh come on. I promise to be a perfect gentleman. I totally respect girls. I open the door for you-push in the chair-bring you flowers. I'm totally not one of those creepy guys."

For some reason- I'm not exactly ready to believe him. Not to mention---isn't that something that a creepy guy would say to try and make you believe that he's not a creep? Kinda reminds me of the saying "You said it-not me." He continues

HIM "I'm so attracted to you. You kinda scare me."

Dude- You Scare ME!!! A couple more clicks of the mouse---taken care of.

Whatever happened to getting to know each other first???